In her book "Bad Feminist: Essays," Roxane Gay emphasizes the need to move beyond the divisive nature of privilege and oppression discussions. She argues that instead of competing over who has more privilege or oppression, society should focus on engaging in meaningful conversations that acknowledge and respect individual experiences. This approach allows for multiple truths to coexist without diminishing anyone's lived experience.

Gay suggests that insisting on the legitimacy of one’s own truth is vital for understanding and empathy. By recognizing that different perspectives can share space, we open the door to a more inclusive dialogue. She believes that discussions around privilege could be less about comparison and more about genuine connection, which would ultimately foster a better understanding of each other's realities.