Book: Dare, Dream, Do: Remarkable Things Happen When You Dare to Dream
Quotes of Book: Dare, Dream, Do: Remarkable
The Zookeeper's Wife is the story of Jan and Antonina Zabinski, Polish Christian zookeepers who, horrified by Nazi racism, managed to save more than three hundred people. Author Diane Ackerman writes movingly about Polish émigré Eva Hoffman's psychic earthquake of having to shed her name in order to save her life: "Nothing much has happened, except a small, seismic mental shift. The twist in our names takes them a tiny distance from us-but it is a gap into which the infinite hobgoblin of abstraction enters." Suddenly Eva Hoffman's given name, and that of her sister, no longer exists even though "they were as surely us as our eyes or hands." The new names were actually "identification tags, disembodied signs pointing to objects that happen to be my sister and myself. We walk to our seats, into a roomful of unknown faces, with names that make us strangers to ourselves." DISCOVERING WHO YOU ARE Our names, our identities, our figuring out "This is who I am" are a huge part of discovering our dreams. And haven't many of us said, "I'll start dreaming once I wrap up with X, Y, or Z project." At the same time, we are asking ourselves, "Why do I keep putting things off? There's so much to do but I can't get anything done." Perhaps we have it backwards. Perhaps having goals for ourselves is not something to do after we've wrapped up X, Y, and Z projects. Perhaps daring to dream is a goal we need to pursue now, because it's key to getting those X, Y, and Z projects done. Psychologist Timothy Pychyl writes in an article titled "Teenagers, Identity Crises, and Procrastination" that if we can't answer the questions "Who am I?" and "What am I?" we're more likely to procrastinate. In other words, the more people know who they are, the less likely they are to procrastinate. Pychyl explains the interconnectedness between identity and agency as follows: "Identity is that knowledge of who we are. . . . Agency is the belief that we are in control of our decisions and responsible for our outcomes. . . . It means we make a difference, we make things happen, we act on the world. Thus, being an active agent depends on identity, or knowing who we are." Perhaps, then, the best thing we can do is to put our busyness to the side, and instead focus on our identity and our dreams-or, as management consultant Robin Dickinson said after he read Pychyl's study, "Focus on your To-Be List, before the To-Do List." When we return to that to-do list we might just find we're actually beginning to get things done." book-quoteMichael Lewis, the author of The Blind Side, wrote about professional basketball player Shane Battier, who plays for the Houston Rockets, in an article titled "The No-Stats All-Star." He describes Battier as follows: "Shane Battier is widely regarded inside the NBA as, at best, a replaceable cog in a machine driven by superstars. And yet every team he has ever played on has acquired some magical ability to win. {Because} Battier . . . seems to help the team in all sorts of subtle, hard-to-measure ways that appear to violate his personal interests." Subtle, hard-to-measure ways. Lewis continues: Battier's game is a weird combination of obvious weaknesses and nearly invisible strengths. When he is on the court, his teammates get better, often a lot better, and his opponents get worse-often a lot worse. He may not grab huge numbers of rebounds, but he has an uncanny ability to improve his teammates' rebounding. He doesn't shoot much, but when he does, he takes only the most efficient shots . . . On defense, although he routinely guards the NBA's most prolific scorers, he significantly reduces shooting percentages. {We} call him Lego. When he's on the court, all the pieces start to fit together. Husbands, children, and coworkers may not understand what it is exactly that we do. Yet because of who we are and what we do, whether in our home, community, or workplace, things magically work. Like Shane Battier, our very presence seems to just make everything and everyone work better together. It's hard to put your finger on it, but in my experience this "magic" of bringing people together and enhancing their strengths is a talent that many women seem to have. It's one reason we are so good at being a safe haven and playing a supporting role, but it's a talent that we can use for great good when we dust off our dreams and put on our Batman suit. book-quote
