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  1. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    No one has ever suggested legal protections for ugly people to make up for the misaligned features that will compromise their personal and professional lives. For people disabled by inherent moral perplexity, we offer not support but imprisonment.
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  2. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    We are all differently abled from one another, and context-which is socially constructed-often decides what will be protected and indulged.
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  3. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    All kinds of attributes make one less able. Illiteracy and poverty are disabilities, and so are stupidity, obesity, and boringness. Extreme age and extreme youth are both disabilities. Faith is a disability insofar as it constrains you from self-interest; atheism is a disability inasmuch as it shields you from hope. One might see power as a disability, too, for the isolation in which it imprisons those who wield it.
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  4. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    There is no contradiction between loving someone and feeling burdened by that person; indeed, love tends to magnify the burden. These parents need space for their ambivalence, whether they can allow it for themselves or not. For those who love, there should be no shame in being exhausted-even in imagining another life."
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  5. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    Let me bury here the rage I feel to have been twice robbed: once of the child I wanted, and once of the son I loved.
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  6. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    In the 1990s, Miraca Gross studied children who were radically accelerated, starting college between eleven and sixteen. None regretted the acceleration, and most had made good and lasting friendships with older children. By contrast, gifted children stuck with age peers experienced rage, depression, and self-criticism. Today, most gifted programs keep children in an age-based setting some of the time and a skills-based setting the rest of the time. Neither affords a perfect fit. The mathematical prodigy Norbert Wiener wrote that the prodigy knows "the suffering which grows from belonging half to the adult world and half to the world of the children about him." He explained, "I was not so much a mixture of child and man as wholly a child for purposes of companionship and nearly completely a man for purposes of study."
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  7. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    When the child does not conform to this image, the parents often need help in adapting their behavior to the reality-they
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  8. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    must love them for themselves,
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  9. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    We learn so much from our children-in patience, in humility, in gratitude for other blessings we had accepted before as a matter of course; so much in tolerance; so much in faith-believing and trusting where we cannot see; so much in compassion for our fellow man; and yes, even so much in wisdom about the eternal values in life.
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  10. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    These are astonishingly early processes. The
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  11. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    Disability is not predictive of the happiness of either the parent or the child, which reflects the larger puzzle that people who have won the lottery are, in the long run and on average, only marginally happier than amputees-people in each category having adjusted rather quickly to their new normal.
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  12. Andrew Solomon _ Far From the Tree

    Many coping strategies have a Zen simplicity. Instead of resolving chaos, find beauty and happiness amid chaos. I am reminded of a friend who said that when she found out her husband couldn't fill her needs, she changed her needs;
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