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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
Freud called the first stage of life "polymorphous perverse." At birth infants are so undifferentiated that they have the capacity to receive erotic stimulation at every aperture of the body and any area of skin: from either or both sexes; from animals, food, objects, colors, currents of air, gradations of temperature. As we grow older, become socialized, and develop identity, the satisfactions we pursue become more specific.
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
The image of women making love to women grips the male imagination because it expresses one of the dominant themes of male fantasy: the sexually insatiable woman. Women who masturbate, who make love to other women, {..} who not only initiate sexual action but overpower the man {..} release the man from his earliest inhibitions. He need no longer fear making his proposition, need not fear he may not perform well: The sexually enflamed woman in this myth is so close to orgasm right from the start that nothing is going to hold her back.
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
Voyeurism is a general term for people who get sensual satisfaction from looking, often with the knowledge, consent, and even full participation of the sexual object. {..} the eye is one of the organs of love. {..} Voyeuristic fantasies reverse the woman's power, it passes from her to the eye of the man. By keeping himself hidden or invisible, the voyeur imposes his will on the woman. She has lost her ability to say no; has been unknowingly frozen into the position of an indulgent mother who allows the boy everything he wants. {..} Wanting to see, but afraid to look, men invent voyeuristic fantasies to heal a paradox, the conflict in themselves.
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
The Freudian fetishist is defined by the fact that his desire is not primarily for the woman. {..} fetish is a "transitional object" – helping the toddler bridge his fear and loneliness. Having this unconsciously remembered evidence of mother's warmth and reassurance with him, he is encouraged to go forward into sexual pleasures. {..} Another fascinating aspect of fetishistic thinking is the extraordinary amount of detail connected to the object. The fetish is lovingly described, lingeringly examined.
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Nancy Friday _ Men In Love
A woman cannot give a man his sense of maleness. He can desire her, but not identify with her. At best, she can give him a negative identification: This can be very thrilling, but still leaves him deprived of an object of positive identification. {..} other men are brought in to fill the void. They provide contact with an element the inventor, consciously or not, knows he needs to assert himself as fully male. {..} By joining in their sexual games, the woman grants absolution and permission. It isn't so much that these men use women to get to other men as that they need the woman to help break through the guilt barrier that blocks them from their about other men.
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