John Dryden called jealousy "the jaundice of the soul." If your jealousy gets in...

John Dryden called jealousy "the jaundice of the soul." If your jealousy gets in your way, and creates any amount of emotional immobility, then you can set as a goal the elimination of this wasteful thinking. Jealousy is really a demand that someone love you in a certain way, and you saying "It isn't fair" when they don't. It comes from a lack of self-confidence, simply because it is an other-directed activity. It allows their behavior to be the cause of your emotional discomfort. People who really like themselves don't choose jealousy or allow themselves to be distraught when someone else doesn't play fair.
You can never predict how someone you love will react to another human being, but if they choose to be affectionate or loving you can only experience the immobility of jealousy if you see their decisions as having anything to do with you. That is your choice. If a partner loves another, he isn't being "unfair," he is simply being.