Our Real Self feels both joy and pain. And it expresses and shares them with appropriate others. However, our false self tends to push us to feel mostly painful feelings and to withhold and not share them. For simplicity, we can describe these joyful and painful feelings across a spectrum, starting with the most joyous, going through the most painful, and ending with confusion and numbness, as follows: Viewing our feelings in this way, we see that our Real and True Self, our Child Within, is empowered with a wider range of possibilities than we might have believed. The maintenance and growth of our Child Within is associated with what psychotherapists and counselors call a "strong ego," or sense of self i.e., a flexible and creative self that can "roll with the punches" of life. By contrast, the false self tends to be more limited, responding to mostly painful feelings-or no feeling at all, i.e., numbness. Our false self tends to be associated with a "weak ego" or self sense i.e., a less flexible, self-centered {negative or egocentric} and more rigid one. {Originally Freud and his followers used "ego" to mean what we now understand as being both our True Self and false self. But since about 1940, object relations and self psychologists have differentiated these and generally do not use the term "ego." Today, more people equate ego with false self.} To cover up the pain we use relatively unhealthy defenses against pain which give us fewer possibilities and choices in our lives.
( Charles L. Whitfield )
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