In her book "Bad Feminist: Essays," Roxane Gay reflects on the complexities of being honest and human in social interactions. She acknowledges that her bluntness, although lacking in tact, is not meant to be hurtful. Gay offers insight into how such traits can be seen as unlikable, particularly in women, highlighting a societal expectation for women to be more accommodating and gentle in their opinions.

Gay’s exploration reveals the duality of such honesty, suggesting that while it may have negative social connotations, it is also a form of authenticity. This perspective challenges traditional gender roles, calling attention to the unfair scrutiny women face for expressing their true feelings without the sugar-coating that society often demands.