In "Bad Feminist," Roxane Gay emphasizes that disagreement should not be conflated with anger. She argues that recognizing and discussing the pervasive nature of misogyny and its detrimental effects on women is a necessary conversation rather than an emotional outburst. Gay believes that framing women's anger as unjustified only serves to further marginalize their voices and experiences.

Gay stresses that labeling women's rightful anger towards systemic injustices as inappropriate places them in a vulnerable position. This notion undermines the urgency of addressing the issues they face. She advocates for an understanding that critiques of misogyny should be seen as necessary discourse, rather than emotional reactions that need to be suppressed.