In the context of courtship, individuals often view their interactions as tentative and filled with potential. During this phase, even minor acts of kindness or talent are seen as promising indicators of the virtues that will unfold in a future marriage. This creates a sense of anticipation regarding the joys and accomplishments that married life is expected to bring. The excitement of new possibilities leads partners to idealize their future together.

However, once marriage begins, those expectations shift dramatically to focus on the present reality. The initial thrill of courtship wanes as partners realize that the journey of marriage can feel stagnant, like sailing in a closed-off space with no clear direction or destination. This realization can lead to feelings of confinement, as the initial promise of adventure turns into the routine of everyday life, laying bare the limitations of their shared experiences.