I was raised in a culture that promotes this competitiveness, this insatiability, this fantasy of needing hundreds of thousands of dollars a year, and then, in the next breath, shames you for any feelings of longing or envy or fear that it will always be someone else's turn. I was only doing what I had been groomed to do.
In her book "Bird by Bird," author Anne Lamott reflects on the competitive culture in which she was raised, emphasizing how it instills a relentless drive for financial success. This environment fosters a belief that one must earn a significant income to be valuable, leading to feelings of inadequacy and fear of missing out. The pressure to achieve financial milestones becomes overwhelming, creating a paradox where individuals are encouraged to aspire for more yet feel ashamed of their personal insecurities and desires.
Lamott reveals that she was merely conforming to the expectations set by her upbringing, showcasing the internal conflict many face. The societal norms push people to attain wealth while simultaneously shaming them for their natural human emotions like longing and envy. Such experiences raise questions about the true cost of ambition and the emotional toll of living up to unrealistic standards, highlighting the importance of addressing personal feelings in the pursuit of success.
