Roxane Gay, in her book "Bad Feminist: Essays," humorously addresses the concept of dating someone who may not be ideal. She suggests that if one is in a relationship with a less-than-stellar partner, it's better to acknowledge it openly. This honesty not only provides a lighter perspective but also opens avenues for more engaging conversations among friends.

By owning up to her relationship choice, Gay implies that it's okay to embrace imperfections in a partner. She candidly states her reasoning for being with a difficult person, attributing it to her own laziness. This self-reflection encourages others to consider their choices in relationships without shame.