The author reflects on the challenging journey of personal transformation, likening it to a rebirth that often requires confronting darkness and loss. She recognizes that she is undergoing a significant change in her identity, particularly as a mother and as a younger woman, signifying the end of certain past selves. This process invokes feelings of grief for these lost identities.

Kidd emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to grieve, as doing so can open the door to profound transformation. She suggests that to ignore these feelings is to risk missing out on the potential for renewal and growth that can follow such a loss.