Sheba has often told me that she thinks there's a rhythm to married life, an ebb and flow in the pleasure that a couple take in one another. The rhythm varies from couple to couple, she says. For some couples, the see-saw of affections takes place over a week. For others, the cycle is lunar. But all couples sense this about their life together - the way in which their interest in one another builds up and recedes. The happiest couples are the ones whose cycles interact in such a way that when one of them is feeling jaded, the other is ardent, and there is never a vacuum.
Sheba expresses her belief that married life has a natural rhythm characterized by fluctuating periods of pleasure and intimacy. This ebb and flow varies from couple to couple, with some experiencing weekly cycles and others following lunar patterns. Despite these differences, all couples awareness of these natural fluctuations in their relationship.
According to her, the most harmonious relationships are those where these cycles complement each other; when one partner feels weary, the other feels passionate, ensuring there is never a complete lull in their connection. This interplay helps maintain balance and vitality within the marriage, according to Heller's observations in her book.
