The speaker reflects on a situation where they feel overwhelmed and helpless. By accepting some responsibility, they believe it provides them with a semblance of control amidst chaos. This self-blame may serve as a coping mechanism, allowing them to navigate their emotions during difficult times.

In the context of the book "Stolen" by Kelley Armstrong, this perspective highlights the struggle of the characters as they face challenges beyond their control. The idea of shouldering blame suggests a deeper psychological need to find agency, even if it means carrying burdens that aren't entirely theirs to bear.