In "Reading Lolita in Tehran," Azar Nafisi reflects on the profound difficulties of expressing sympathy in the face of horrific events, such as the rape and murder of innocent victims. The gravity of such tragedies creates an emotional barrier, making it nearly impossible to find the right words. The struggle lies in how to convey meaningful support when the suffering is beyond comprehension.

Nafisi highlights the challenge of relating to someone enduring unimaginable pain. The phrase "I feel your pain" seems inadequate, emphasizing the limits of language and expression when confronted with extreme human suffering. This sentiment illustrates the complexity of empathy and the often helpless position of those who wish to communicate their solidarity in moments of profound grief.