In Milan Kundera's book "Identity," the author explores the concept of the self and its resilience. He suggests that in order to maintain the essence of who we are, it is essential to nurture our memories, much like caring for potted flowers. This nurturing process hinges on our interactions and relationships with friends and those who have shared in our life experiences.

Kundera emphasizes the importance of regular connection with these individuals, as they serve as witnesses to our past and help keep our memories alive. By fostering these relationships, we can ensure that our identities remain vibrant and intact, avoiding the shrinkage that can occur in the absence of meaningful engagement with others.