Roxane Gay emphasizes the importance of discussing privilege in a constructive manner. Instead of approaching the topic with an accusatory tone, she advocates for a more observational and acknowledging dialogue. This shift can foster healthier discussions that don’t put individuals on the defensive but rather encourage mutual understanding.

Gay suggests that current discussions often devolve into what she terms the "Privilege or Oppression Olympics," where individuals compete over who has it worse. This approach is unproductive and hinders progress. By moving beyond this competitive mindset, society can develop more effective ways of addressing issues related to privilege and oppression, ultimately leading to better solutions.