When you are the object of a person's affection, do you naturally credit him with a sympathetic heart and an understanding of the world? Perhaps your impression is right only insofar as it applies to you; in his presence, he is indeed possessed of these qualities for the very reason that you are the object of his affection. He is not observant so much as observant of you, not kind so much as kind toward you.
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The quote from "American Wife" by Curtis Sittenfeld reflects on the complexities of affection and perception. When someone expresses love or admiration towards you, it can create a sense of trust in their understanding and empathy. However, this perception might be limited, as their kindness and attentiveness are primarily directed at you, rather than being a general quality they possess towards everyone. This suggests that their feelings can shape how we interpret their character.

Moreover, the quote encourages introspection about the nature of love and attachment. Our affection may lead us to believe that the other person sees the world with the same depth of understanding that we perceive in our interactions. In reality, their sympathy is often a reflection of their feelings for us, illustrating the selective nature of human connections. This highlights a nuanced truth about relationships, emphasizing that love can cloud one's judgment of another's character and abilities beyond the context of that affection.

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