In "Bad Feminist: Essays," Roxane Gay explores the concept of femininity and how women engage in its performance, often as a response to societal expectations. She delves into the notion that women, whether consciously or unconsciously, adhere to certain standards of femininity that dictate their behavior, appearance, and interactions. This performance can be seen as both a choice and a restriction, as women navigate societal pressures to align with traditional gender roles.

Gay highlights the complexities of this performance, illustrating how the expectations around femininity can trap women in roles that may not reflect their true selves. Through various essays, she discusses the tension between personal identity and public perception, emphasizing that the cultural narratives surrounding femininity can limit women's freedom and authenticity. Overall, her work prompts critical reflection on how gender performance shapes women's lives and identities.