Years ago, my mentor, Mary Seals and I shared a mutual acquaintance who was successful in sales, but had a questionable reputation. I told her, I really like him, but I can't trust him as far as I can throw him. Mary bluntly replied, Susan, if I can't trust someone, I don't like or respect them.Her comment caused me to reconsider always giving people the benefit of a doubt and to instead be wary when someone demonstrates a lack of integrity.
In her book "The Art of Connection," Susan C. Young reflects on a pivotal conversation with her mentor, Mary Seals. They had a mutual acquaintance known for his sales prowess but had a dubious reputation. Young expressed her liking for him despite her mistrust, only to be met with Mary's blunt advice that trust is foundational to respect and liking. This exchange prompted Young to reevaluate her approach to relationships, emphasizing the importance of integrity over blind optimism.
The interaction served as a turning point for Young, who decided that caution is warranted when someone shows a lack of integrity. This realization highlights the significance of trust in building genuine connections, urging readers to reconsider how they navigate relationships with those who may not be entirely trustworthy. Through this experience, Young illustrates that while it's natural to want to see the good in others, discernment should guide our interactions.