In the book "Ender's Game," a significant interaction takes place where Ender accuses Graff of causing others to dislike him. Graff responds by challenging Ender, questioning whether he will cower in fear or seek approval from those who dislike him. Instead, he emphasizes the importance of proving oneself through excellence, suggesting that the only way to overcome hatred is through outstanding performance.

Graff’s words highlight the pressure placed on Ender to excel and the belief that true recognition can only be earned through hard work and talent. He insists that Ender must fulfill the expectations laid upon him, as Graff has already convinced others of his exceptional abilities. This conversation underlines the themes of isolation and the burden of expectation that are prevalent throughout the narrative.