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Erich Fromm _ The Art of Loving
Contemporary society preaches this ideal of unindividualized equality because it needs human atoms, each one the same, to make them function in a mass aggregation, smoothly, without friction; all obeying the same commands, yet everybody being convinced that he is following his own desires. Just as modern mass production requires the standardization of commodities, so the social process requires standardization of man, and this standardization is called "equality."
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Erich Fromm _ The Art of Loving
Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole, not toward one 'object' of love. If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to the rest of his fellow men, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism.
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Erich Fromm _ The Art of Loving
If a person does not emerge from incestuous attachment to mother, clan, nation, if he retains the childish dependence on a punishing and rewarding father, or any other authority, he cannot develop a more mature love for God; then his religion is that of the earlier phase of religion, in which God was experienced as an all-protective mother or a punishing rewarding father. In
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The deepest need of man, then, is the need to overcome his separateness, to leave the prison of his aloneness.
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The unity achieved in productive work is not interpersonal; the unity achieved in orgiastic fusion is transitory; the unity achieved by conformity is only pseudo-unity. Hence, they are only partial answers to the problem of existence. The full answer lies in the achievement of interpersonal union, of fusion with another person, in love."
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Erich Fromm _ The Art of Loving
To respect a person is not possible without knowing him; care and responsibility would be blind if they were not guided by knowledge. Knowledge would be empty if it were not motivated by concern. There are many layers of knowledge; the knowledge which is an aspect of love is one which does not stay at the periphery, but penetrates to the core. It is possible only when I can transcend the concern for myself and see the other person in his own terms. I may know, for instance, that a person is angry, even if he does not show it overtly; but I may know him more deeply than that; then I know that he is anxious, and worried; that he feels lonely, that he feels guilty. Then I know that his anger is only the manifestation of something deeper, and I see him as anxious and embarrassed, that is, as the suffering person, rather than as the angry one.
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Erich Fromm _ The Art of Loving
Our whole culture is based on the appetite for buying, on the idea of a mutually favorable exchange. {...} "Attractive" usually means a nice package of qualities which are popular and sought after on the personality market. {...} Two persons thus fall in love when they feel they have found the best object available on the market, considering the limitations of their own exchange values.In a culture in which the marketing orientation prevails, and in which material success is the outstanding value, there is little reason to be surprised that human love relations follow the same pattern of exchange which governs the commodity and the labor market.
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Erich Fromm _ The Art of Loving
Two persons thus fall in love when they feel they have found the best object available on the market, considering the limitations of their own exchange values.
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Erich Fromm _ The Art of Loving
Most people are not even aware of their need to conform. They live under the illusion that they follow their own ideas and inclinations, that they are individualists, that they have arrived at their opinions as the result of their own thinking-and that it just happens that their ideas are the same as those of the majority."
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Erich Fromm _ The Art of Loving
To know and yet {think} we do not know is the highest {attainment}; not to know {and yet think} we do know is a disease.
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How should a man caught in this net of routine not forget that he is a man, a unique individual, one who is given only this one chance of living, with hopes and disappointments, with sorrow and fear, with the longing for love and the dread of the nothing and of separateness?
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God explains to Jonah that the essence of love is to "labor" for something and "to make something grow,
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