The narrative reflects a woman's perspective on the stark contrasts between romantic ideals and the harsh realities of marriage and motherhood. She feels that the affection and lavish gestures a man offers before marriage are superficial, masking a desire for dominance and control after the vows are exchanged. The metaphor of flattening underfoot illustrates her concern about losing her identity and independence once married.

The protagonist recalls a troubling remark from Buddy Willard, suggesting that motherhood could alter her aspirations, particularly her love for writing. This leads her to ponder the transformative, and often oppressive, nature of marriage and parenting, likening it to brainwashing. The notion of becoming numb and subservient in a "private, totalitarian state" emphasizes her fears about the potential loss of self in these roles.