Does he love me? Does he love anyone more than me? Does he love me more than I love him? Perhaps all the questions we ask of love, to measure, test, probe, and save it, have the additional effect of cutting it short. Perhaps the reason we are unable to love is that we yearn to be loved, that is, we demand something {love} from our partner instead of delivering ourselves up to him demand-free and asking for nothing but his company.
The complexities of love are often intertwined with our insecurities. We frequently find ourselves questioning our partner's feelings for us, wondering if their love surpasses our own or if they hold affections for others. This quest for clarity can inadvertently undermine the love we seek, as we become preoccupied with measurements and comparisons instead of simply experiencing the connection we have with our partner.
Kundera suggests that our yearning to be loved can create barriers to genuine affection. When we seek validation and demand reciprocation from our partners, we may hinder the natural flow of love. Instead of imposing conditions or expectations, a more fulfilling approach is to embrace our partner's presence and cherish the relationship itself, free from demands and insecurities.
