Don't you see? It's just not possible for one person to watch over another person forever and ever. I mean, suppose we got married. You'd have to work during the day. Who's going to watch over me while you're away? Or if you go on a business trip, who's going to watch over me then? Can I be glued to you every minute of our lives? What kind of equality would there be in that? What kind of relationship would that be? Sooner or later you'd get sick of me. You'd wonder what you were doing with your life, why you were spending all your time babysitting this woman. I couldn't stand that. It wouldn't solve any of my problems.

πŸ“– Haruki Murakami

🌍 Japanese  |  πŸ‘¨β€πŸ’Ό Writer

πŸŽ‚ January 12, 1949
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The speaker reflects on the impracticality of one person being responsible for another's well-being continuously. They raise concerns about dependence in a potential marriage, questioning who would look after them if the partner were at work or on a trip. This sense of reliance could lead to an imbalance in the relationship, undermining equality and causing frustration.

They argue that such a dynamic might eventually become burdensome, with the partner feeling trapped or resentful. The speaker's apprehensions highlight the importance of autonomy and mutual respect in relationships, suggesting that true companionship should not resemble a caregiver-patient scenario, as that would not resolve their personal struggles.

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