In the book "Things I've Learned from Women Who've Dumped Me" by Nick Hornby, he illustrates how some men may feel overlooked and undervalued, much like a DVD of the movie "Elf" that sits idle on a shelf. Hornby draws a parallel between the experience of being ignored and the expectation that something more exciting or complex can be found, often leading to disappointment. This analogy highlights the feelings of inadequacy and longing for recognition that can accompany romantic rejection.

Hornby further emphasizes this point by describing how men often perceive themselves as less appealing or interesting compared to the vibrant, captivating women they admire. To these men, the women appear as enchanting "Elves" who sparkle with potential and depth, while they feel like overlooked options. This reflection provides insight into the complexities of relationships and the ways in which self-perception can influence romantic dynamics.