In her book "Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith," Anne Lamott explores the concept of forgiveness. She emphasizes that true forgiveness occurs when the desire for revenge or retaliation diminishes, freeing oneself from the burden of anger. It's about letting go of the need to retaliate, even if it doesn’t lead to reconciliation with the person who caused harm.

Lamott stresses that holding onto feelings of vengeance keeps one mired in emotional turmoil, akin to a nightmare. Forgiveness is portrayed not as a reconciliation measure but as a path toward personal peace, allowing individuals to move forward without the weight of unresolved conflict.