In "Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close" by Jonathan Safran Foer, the protagonist, Oskar Schell, grapples with the loss of his father, who died in the 9/11 attacks. The quote, "I just couldn't be dead any longer," reflects Oskar's inner turmoil and his desperate desire to connect with his father. Throughout the story, Oskar’s quest for closure drives him to explore themes of grief and the impact of loss on personal identity.

Oskar's journey takes him through a blend of past and present, revealing how trauma shapes the way individuals cope with their emotions. The narrative highlights the struggles of moving forward while still feeling deeply connected to those who are gone. Foer’s work explores the delicate balance between mourning and memory, illustrating how the living seek to remember and honor their loved ones even amid overwhelming sorrow.