In her book "The Man of My Dreams," Curtis Sittenfeld discusses the simplicity of romantic intentions. She suggests that if a man is genuinely interested in pursuing a romantic relationship, he will make a move, such as attempting to kiss the woman he likes. This straightforward approach highlights the importance of clear actions over ambiguous signals in romantic pursuits.

Moreover, Sittenfeld emphasizes that if a man does not take the initiative to kiss, it may indicate a lack of interest. As such, waiting for someone to show affection without taking action can lead to unnecessary heartache. Her message encourages women to recognize their worth and not to linger on unclear feelings or indecisive partners.