Mindy Kaling expresses a powerful sentiment regarding desire and attraction in her book "Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?" She emphasizes how alluring it is to feel wanted by someone. This feeling often begins with small gestures, like someone nervously asking for your phone number or sending a message to invite you out. These actions create a sense of appreciation and value in oneself.

Moreover, Kaling highlights that such simple expressions of interest can have a lasting impact on one’s self-esteem. The notion that someone wants to spend time with you can boost one's ego significantly. It's not just about physical attraction; it's the acknowledgment and validation that can leave a person feeling cherished and desired for a long time.