Mindy Kaling reflects on weddings in her book, suggesting that they should primarily be joyful celebrations shared with close friends rather than monumental life events that define relationships. She emphasizes that while a wedding can be a memorable occasion, it should not overshadow the ongoing friendships and connections that develop over time.

Kaling believes that the essence of a marriage lies in the everyday moments and shared interests, such as discussing gardening, rather than the grand spectacle of the wedding day itself. This perspective highlights the importance of sustaining long-term friendships beyond the initial excitement of a wedding ceremony.