Roxane Gay's "Bad Feminist: Essays" highlights a troubling issue within the LGBTQ+ community: the existence of a socially acceptable "right kind of gay". This concept suggests that certain individuals, perhaps those who conform to mainstream ideals, are celebrated for their openness, while others, who do not meet specific criteria, remain marginalized and overlooked. The nuance in identity and experience is often dismissed, leading to a hierarchy within the community itself.

This situation emphasizes the need for inclusivity, urging society to recognize and validate all forms of sexual orientation and expression. It raises a critical question about who is allowed to live openly and who faces barriers based on their differences. Gay suggests that true acceptance should encompass the entire spectrum of identity, rather than just those who align with conventional expectations.