In "Reading Lolita in Tehran," Azar Nafisi reflects on the way some individuals address their trauma with an apparent detachment. She argues that this behavior stems not from bravery, but from a unique form of cowardice. Instead of authentically expressing their pain, they present their experiences in a casual manner, which pushes others to engage with their hardships without inviting any empathy or understanding.

Nafisi suggests that this mechanism serves as a wall against vulnerability, as individuals proclaim their ability to endure, declaring that their suffering is manageable. By doing so, they deny others the opportunity to empathize, creating a disconnect that can be both isolating and damaging. This commentary highlights a critical aspect of human interaction regarding the expression of emotions and the longing for connection amid struggles.