Men believe value is created by accomplishment, and they have objectives for the women in their lives. If awoman meets the objectives, he assumes she loves him. If she fails to meet the objectives, he will assume she does notlove him. The man assumes that if the woman loved him she would have tried harder and he always believes his objectives for her are reasonable.
In Scott Adams' book "God's Debris: A Thought Experiment," he explores the idea that men often equate value with achievements and have specific expectations for the women in their lives. When a woman fulfills these expectations, a man interprets it as a sign of love, while failure to do so leads him to question her feelings for him. This dynamic highlights the misguided assumptions men make regarding women's love based on their ability to meet set objectives.
The author emphasizes that men generally perceive their objectives for women as fair and reasonable. This belief can lead to misunderstandings in relationships, as their love is conditional upon performance. Thus, a woman's perceived failure may create emotional distance, whereas her success reinforces a man's sense of being loved, showcasing the complexities of love and expectation in gender dynamics.
