Mindy Kaling emphasizes in her book that talking about stress doesn’t often foster productive dialogue. She suggests that most people are already experiencing their own stress and may not be interested in hearing about someone else’s troubles. This commonality can make discussions about personal stress feel unproductive and one-sided.

The author highlights that sharing the specifics of one’s stress can become a repetitive cycle that fails to engage others or create meaningful connections. Instead of dwelling on personal stress, she seems to advocate for finding conversations that uplift and resonate, rather than ones that simply dwell on individual burdens.