In "A Landscape With Dragons," Michael D. O'Brien explores the notion that genuine love cannot flourish if we cling to our desires for control, rights, and grievances. He argues that true love requires us to let go of these attachments and selfish motives, which can obscure our ability to connect with others deeply.

O'Brien emphasizes the importance of selflessness in relationships, suggesting that until we surrender our need to dominate or possess, we'll remain trapped in a cycle of self-interest. This perspective highlights the transformative power of love when we prioritize the well-being of others over our own agendas.