Received a gift - it was the first decent piece of instruction about marriage I had ever been given in my twenty-five years of life. Does your husband make you a better person? Edra asked. There I was in that sky-blue pool beneath a bright blue sky, my fingers breaking apart the light on the water, and I had no idea what she was talking about. Are you smarter, kinder, more generous, more compassionate, a better writer? she said, running down her list. Does he make you better? That's not the question, I said. It's so much more complicated than that. It's not more complicated than that.
This quote beautifully captures the nuanced nature of personal growth within the context of a relationship, particularly marriage. It presents a poignant moment of realization: how do we assess the impact of a significant other on our own development? The question "Does your husband make you a better person?" is deceptively simple, yet it invites a deep reflection on what ‘better’ really means. The narrator’s initial confusion reflects the complexity of...
