The character in Milan Kundera's "The Unbearable Lightness of Being" realizes that her seriousness about love has become a burden to her partner. She struggles to appreciate the lighter, more playful aspects of physical love, often turning experiences into dramatic events. This self-awareness brings her a sense of longing, as she wishes she could let go of her heavy demeanor and embrace a more carefree approach to relationships.

She expresses a deep desire for guidance to break free from her outdated perceptions about love and intimacy. The protagonist is aware of her limitations and yearns for transformation, seeking someone who can help her discover a sense of lightness in her life and relationships, allowing her to experience love without the weight of anachronistic beliefs.