In "Becoming," Michelle Obama reflects on her deep connection with her friend Santita. She admires Santita's depth, noting that it is a quality she cherishes most in her. While they could be lighthearted and playful around others, their private moments reveal a more serious and thoughtful side. This duality represents the complexity of their friendship, where they balance humor with introspection.

Obama emphasizes that their relationship allows for both frivolity and profound conversations. This dynamic highlights not only their bond but also the beauty of having a friend who can engage in both light and serious discussions, enriching their connection and personal growth.