In her book "Why Not Me?", Mindy Kaling explores the complexities of romantic relationships and the emotional investment people often make in others. She reflects on how sometimes, the allure of an idea or fantasy about a person can drive someone to go to great lengths to pursue that relationship, even when the reality may not align with expectations. This tendency can lead individuals to overlook important factors that contribute to a healthy partnership.

Kaling's observation speaks to the common human experience of being enamored by the concept of love or companionship. This can result in efforts that may not always be reciprocated or appreciated, highlighting the difference between idealization and the authenticity of a connection. Ultimately, her insights remind readers to seek genuine compatibility rather than getting lost in an infatuation with an idealized version of someone.