In her book "Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?", Mindy Kaling advises teenage girls not to stress over achieving high popularity or excelling in school activities like acting or sports. She emphasizes that these high school accomplishments lose their significance once graduation occurs. Many people tend to forget these achievements and focus on the present and future instead.

Kaling warns that excessively referencing high school successes can come off as sad and desperate, akin to a character from Tennessee Williams' plays, who clings to past glories. The underlying message is to encourage girls to prioritize their current lives and experiences rather than being overly focused on the fleeting status of high school.