The characters in D.H. Lawrence's "Sons and Lovers" desire true intimacy with others but struggle to achieve this connection. Their longing for deep relationships is hindered by their reluctance to engage in ordinary social interactions, which they dismiss as trivial. This scorn for the mundane aspects of human connection keeps them at a distance from those around them.

Despite their yearning for closeness, their refusal to initiate communication prevents them from forming bonds. This paradox illustrates how an inability to embrace the simple, everyday aspects of relationships can obstruct deeper emotional ties. As a result, they find themselves isolated, trapped in a cycle of longing and avoidance.