In Roxane Gay's "Bad Feminist," she explores the concept of the societal pressures women face regarding their identities. The notion of an idealized womanhood creates a persistent tension, as many believe there is a specific way to embody femininity that aligns with societal expectations. This standard can lead to feelings of inadequacy and judgment among women who may not fit this mold.

Gay emphasizes that this struggle is not just a personal battle but a widespread issue that affects the perceptions and experiences of women everywhere. The ongoing search for validation and the desire to be seen as the "essential woman" complicates the feminist discourse, highlighting the challenge of embracing one's individuality in a world that often dictates what it means to be a woman.