I will keep writing about these intersections as a writer and a teacher, as a black woman, as a bad feminist, until I no longer feel like what I want is impossible. I no longer want to believe that...

It's okay if most of your friends are guys, but if you champion this as a commentary on the nature of female friendships, soul search a little.

Rather than solve the real problems the United States is facing, some politicians, mostly conservative, have decided to try to solve the "female problem" by creating a smoke screen, reintroducing...

My amusement with the Fifty Shades series only goes so far. The books are, essentially, a detailed primer for how to successfully engage in a controlling, abusive relationship. The trilogy represents...

It is untenable to go through life as an exposed wound.

We live in a strange and terrible time for women. There are days when I think it has always been a strange and terrible time to be a woman. Womanhood feels more strange and terrible now because...

This myth is like heels and purses-pretty but designed to SLOW women down.

Some serious Scrabble players are poor losers. I am a good loser. I love Scrabble so much I don't care if I lose. I also have to be a good loser because I lose a lot, so practicality plays a role.

Sometimes, when students are doing group work, I sneak a look at my own phone like I am in a cone of invisibility. I am part of the problem.

7. Surround yourself with women you can get sloppy drunk with who won't draw stupid things on your face if you pass out, and who will help you puke if you overcelebrate, and who will also tell you if...

Because I have so many deeply held opinions about gender equality, I feel a lot of pressure to live up to certain ideals. I am supposed to be a good feminist who is having it all, doing it all....

Good feminists don't fear the sisterhood because they know they are comporting themselves in sisterhood-approved ways.

What goes unsaid is that women might be more ambitious and focused because we've never had a choice.

I'm more interested in a show called Grown Women about a group of friends who finally have great jobs and pay all their bills in a timely manner but don't have any savings and still deal with sloppy...

I am a bad feminist because I never want to be placed on a Feminist Pedestal. People who are placed on pedestals are expected to pose, perfectly. Then they get knocked off when they fuck it up....

Over and over again we tell you it is acceptable for men-famous, infamous, or not at all famous-to abuse women. We look the other way. We make excuses. We reward these men for their bad behavior. We...

Feminists are celebrating our victories and acknowledging our privilege when we have it. We're simply refusing to settle. We're refusing to forget how much work there is yet to be done. We're refusing...

All too often, when we see injustices, both great and small, we think, That's terrible, but we do nothing. We say nothing. We let other people fight their own battles. We remain silent because silence...

There is nothing more desperate and unrequited than the love an unpopular girl nurtures for the cool kids.

It is not possible for girlhood to be represented wholly-girlhood is too vast and too individual an experience.

If you are reading this essay, you have some kind of privilege.

Bad feminism seems the only way I can both embrace myself as a feminist and be myself, so I write.

Maybe I'm a bad feminist, but I am committed to the issues important to the feminist movement.

I resisted feminism in my late teens and my twenties because i worried that feminism wouldn't allow me to be the mess of a woman i knew myself to be. But then i began to learn more about feminism. i...

I very much like men. They're interesting to me, and I mostly wish they would be better about how they treat women so I wouldn't have to call them out so often.

On my more difficult days, I'm not sure what's more of a pain in my ass-being black or being a woman. I'm happy to be both of these things, but the world keeps intervening. There are all kinds of...

There are times when I wish finding community was as simple as entering some personal information and letting an algorithm show me where I belong. And

if you cannot recognize your privilege, you have a lot of work to do

I knew I was in love with The Hunger Games when I did not want to get off the treadmill

There is no collective slavery revenge fantasy among black people, but I am certain, if there were one, it would not be about white people, not at all.