Mindy Kaling reflects on her experiences with a long-distance relationship that left her feeling frustrated and hurt. She emphasizes the emotional toll such uncertain connections can have on an individual, particularly when the other person is inconsistent in their commitment. The ups and downs of these interactions can lead to self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy.

In her book, Kaling expresses that what she truly desires is reliability and stability in her relationships, rather than someone who is unpredictable. Such behavior not only consumes her time, but it also exacerbates insecurities about her worth, highlighting the negative impact of flakiness on one’s emotional well-being.