When I find myself filling with rage over the loss of a beloved, I try as soon as possible to remember that my concerns and questions should be focused on what I learned or what I have yet to learn from my departed love. What legacy was left which can help me in the art of living a good life?Did I learn to be kinder,To be more patient, And more generous,More loving,More ready to laugh,And more easy to accept honest tears?If I accept those legacies of my departed beloveds, I am able to say, Thank You to them for their love and Thank You to God for their lives.
When experiencing intense grief over the loss of someone dear, I try to shift my focus from anger to reflection. I remind myself to consider the lessons and qualities that my loved one left behind, such as kindness, patience, generosity, love, humor, and acceptance of emotions.
By embracing these legacies, I can express gratitude for their impact and for their lives. Recognizing their enduring influence helps me find peace and continue living a meaningful life, thanking both them and a higher power for their gifts.
