When you are told, It was meant to be, ask, Who meant it? What does it really mean? Is someone trying to make you accept an undesirable situation or one in which you have doubts? When you are told, Shit happens, remember that plenty of other things happen as well, such as generosity, forgiveness, ambiguity, and uncertainty. When you are told, It's simply fate, ask yourself, What is simple about it? What are the alternatives of fate? What is fate's opposite?
In her book "The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life," Amy Tan encourages readers to critically examine popular phrases like “It was meant to be” and “Shit happens.” Instead of accepting these phrases at face value, she prompts us to question their meanings and the intentions behind them. This reflection can reveal whether such sayings are attempts to make us accept uncomfortable truths or situations we’re unsure about.
Tan also challenges the notion of fate, suggesting we investigate the complexity behind such concepts. She urges us to explore what lies beyond fate and consider alternative perspectives instead of simply accepting predetermined outcomes. By doing so, we can cultivate a deeper understanding of our experiences and the choices available to us.
