In the book "Onyx" by Jennifer L. Armentrout, the narrator reflects on her experience of losing her identity and independence, realizing that she has become someone who revolves entirely around a relationship, despite not actually being in one. This insight highlights the pressures and expectations that can come with romantic involvement, where one might unconsciously prioritize a partner above their own individuality.

This sense of dependency raises important questions about self-worth and personal fulfillment in the absence of a romantic partner. The narrator's struggle emphasizes the need for self-discovery and the importance of maintaining a sense of self, even when societal norms suggest that a significant other defines one's existence.