You want to protect your child from pain, and what you get instead is life, and grace; and though theologians insist that grace is freely given, the truth is that sometimes you pay for it through the nose. And you can't pay your child's way.
In her book "Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith," Anne Lamott reflects on the challenges of parenting and the inevitability of pain in life. She suggests that, despite a parent's instinct to shield their child from suffering, the reality is that life often brings hardships that one cannot sidestep. These experiences, while painful, can lead to growth and a deeper understanding of grace.
Lamott further emphasizes that grace is attainable, but it often comes at a cost. She acknowledges that while grace is meant to be free, the reality is that parents cannot insulate their children from life's trials. There is a sense of responsibility and acceptance that a parent must embrace, recognizing that some experiences can only be endured and learned from, ultimately leading to a richer life.