In her book "Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith," Anne Lamott reflects on the challenges of parenting and the inevitability of pain in life. She suggests that, despite a parent's instinct to shield their child from suffering, the reality is that life often brings hardships that one cannot sidestep. These experiences, while painful, can lead to growth and a deeper understanding of grace.

Lamott further emphasizes that grace is attainable, but it often comes at a cost. She acknowledges that while grace is meant to be free, the reality is that parents cannot insulate their children from life's trials. There is a sense of responsibility and acceptance that a parent must embrace, recognizing that some experiences can only be endured and learned from, ultimately leading to a richer life.