it was easier to be angry than to examine why

You bring your own weather to the picnic.

The heart's transformation is not attained through the mind - it's attained through surrender, authenticity, forgiveness, faith, honesty, acceptance, vulnerability, humility, willingness, nonjudgment,...

The one thing I did ask my dad was about the boys' problems at home. Whether or not he thought the parents hit their son. He told me to mind my own business. Because he didn't know and would never ask...

Fear wasn't the problem, she could deal with nerves, it was the excitement welling up in her that frightened her most. The unfamiliar emotion was too strong. Too needy. Too everything she was...

It isn't given to us to know those rare moments when people are wide open and the lightest touch can wither or heal. A moment too late and we can never reach them any more in this world. They will not...

"Insults are only really effective," she said, "when the person insulted cares for the good opinion of the insulter."

It's a dangerous feeling getting noticed, being wanted. Getting seen deep and proper, it's shit hot but terrible too. It's like being took over. And your whole skin hurts like you suddenly grew two...

I think... I said things to Silas. He'll be angry. 'If he didn't care about you, you couldn't upset him,' was all she said.

One's life is more formed, I sometimes think, by books than by human beings: it is out of books one learns about love and pain at second hand. Even if we have the happy chance to fall in love, it is...

Handel, the one who taught Davy, when a bigger kid was picking on him at school, that revenge made a man weak, while forgiveness took a man's power back from the bully.

If you push the fear away, the only version of fear available to you will be its crazy, irrational, or contorted version. If you're willing to feel it, and merge with it, its energy and wisdom will...

Getting angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—this, certainly, is not as easy as it sounds.

The classical literature in psychology describes the relationship between anxiety and performance, including mental performance, in terms of an upside - down U. At the peak of the inverted U is the...

Great spiritual teachers, like Buddha and Jesus, have touched their disciples' hearts by speaking in the language of emotion, teaching in parables, fables, and stories. Indeed, religious symbol and...

He exhaled the bitter air that makes women doubt everything, and I inhaled it, as I had always done. I expelled my dust, the powder of everything I had destroyed with doubt, and he pulled it into his...

But there is virtually no relationship between being an expert and being seen as someone people can trust with their secrets, doubts, and vulnerabilities. A petty office tyrant or micromanager may be...

People's beliefs about their abilities have a profound effect on those abilities. Ability is not a fixed property; there is a huge variability in how you perform. People who have a sense of...

You're getting too emotional.

Eliminate jealousy by recognizing it is a put-down of yourself. By comparing yourself to some other person and imagining you are loved less, you make others more important than you. You are measuring...

Benjamin Franklin once observed, While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.

I remember my own childhood vividly . . . I knew terrible things. But I knew I mustn't let adults know I knew. It would scare them.

One must love everything.

It doesn't do any good to fight with Sonny. Sonny just moves back, inside himself, where he can't be reached.

It's like all those quiet people, when they do lose their tempers they lose them with a vengeance.

The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee, he once said, and I pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun.

I've seen enough in this world to know that two people who can make each other that miserable must love each other a lot.

If emotion can create a physical action, then duplicating the physical action can re-create the emotion.

You were honest and hardworking and kind. You were polite and patient and more mature than any guy I'd dated before. And when we were together, you listened in a way that made me feel like I was the...

anger is the emotion of a lesser person.