The classical literature in psychology describes the relationship between anxiety and performance, including mental performance, in terms of an upside - down U. At the peak of the inverted U is the...

He exhaled the bitter air that makes women doubt everything, and I inhaled it, as I had always done. I expelled my dust, the powder of everything I had destroyed with doubt, and he pulled it into his...

But there is virtually no relationship between being an expert and being seen as someone people can trust with their secrets, doubts, and vulnerabilities. A petty office tyrant or micromanager may be...

People's beliefs about their abilities have a profound effect on those abilities. Ability is not a fixed property; there is a huge variability in how you perform. People who have a sense of...

You're getting too emotional.

Eliminate jealousy by recognizing it is a put-down of yourself. By comparing yourself to some other person and imagining you are loved less, you make others more important than you. You are measuring...

Benjamin Franklin once observed, While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.

I remember my own childhood vividly . . . I knew terrible things. But I knew I mustn't let adults know I knew. It would scare them.

It doesn't do any good to fight with Sonny. Sonny just moves back, inside himself, where he can't be reached.

It's like all those quiet people, when they do lose their tempers they lose them with a vengeance.

The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee, he once said, and I pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun.

I've seen enough in this world to know that two people who can make each other that miserable must love each other a lot.

If emotion can create a physical action, then duplicating the physical action can re-create the emotion.

You were honest and hardworking and kind. You were polite and patient and more mature than any guy I'd dated before. And when we were together, you listened in a way that made me feel like I was the...

anger is the emotion of a lesser person.

When two people in a marriage are more concerned about getting the golden eggs, the benefits, than they are in preserving the relationship that makes them possible, they often become insensitive and...

A stone is heavy and the sand is weighty; but a fool's wrath is heavier than them both.

Yes, we are totally exposed when we are vulnerable. Yes, we are in the torture chamber that we call uncertainty. And, yes, we're taking a huge emotional risk when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable....

Now I can lean into joy, even when it makes me feel tender and vulnerable. In fact, I expect tender and vulnerable. Joy is as thorny and sharp as any of the dark emotions. To love someone fiercely, to...

I assumed that people weren't doing their best so I judged them and constantly fought being disappointed, which was easier than setting boundaries. Boundaries are hard when you want to be liked and...

It is one of the worst things of sentiment that the voice grows to be more important than the words, and the speaker than that what is spoken.

schmoozes the customers, brings light and warmth to the

He is able to put aside personal feelings and see the broad strokes. Experience counts in these things.